We reconnected after Lindsey made a phone call about shopping for wigs. Lindsey revealed that she was diagnosed with cervical cancer, the "beast " as she called it. Kandice was at a local book store when she received the news. " Lindsey, you're not going to believe this but I was recently diagnosed with cancer for the third time." From that day forward, both ladies kept in touch with each other rather it was supporting each other, complaining, catching up or regular girl talk! On a hot and sizzling Texas summer day, Lindsey and Kandice were talking about medications, appointments, side effects and wearing wigs in the summer when Kandice stated " Look at us we're just two PRETTY GIRLS WITH CANCER" and Lindsey replied "We should start a group."
Lindsey and Kandice found humor and strength in their shared experiences and coined the term "Pretty Girls With Cancer." Their resilience and determination inspired the idea to create an organization that would empower, educate, and inspire girls and women facing all types of cancer. This marked the inception of Pretty Girls With Cancer.Amidst their treatments and journeys towards recovery, Kandice underwent a stem cell transplant in Philadelphia, and Lindsey explored the best treatment options for her cancer. They both utilized Caringbridge pages to share their experiences, ensuring their entries remained uplifting and positive, even in difficult times.After my stem cell transplant , Kandice returned back to Texas and went into cancer remission on November 19, 2011. Lindsey was happy for Kandice, but her cancer was getting worse but her spirit was full of hope. Lindsey would text Kandice, “hey I'm not feeling good but I wanted you to know I'm thinking about you." Lindsey's condition became terminal, but her indomitable spirit remained full of hope. The last conversation was on a Sunday afternoon, and Lindsey started hospice care at her parent’s home. Lindsey spoke about her wishes, the beloved blender she wanted from her apartment, and Pretty Girls with Cancer (PGWC). They always joked around, so during the conversation Kandice asked “Hey do you have a boyfriend yet?" and she laughed " Yes, hospice is so attractive". Lindsey, knew her time was limited, and she told Kandice to focus on PGWC, “Since you’re the President." The last thing she said to Kandice was "Okay, someone just came, I have to go but I will let you know when you can come to visit me next week... stay glamorous" To which Kandice replied, “I love you and you know I will." Lindsey knew her time was limited, but she trusted Kandice to carry on their mission with grace and glamour.
Following Lindsey's passing, Kandice stayed true to her promise, making PGWC her personal mission and a dream come true. "Faith create miracles", inspired by Lindsey's words, serves as a beacon of hope for everyone facing cancer, including survivors and their support systems. Lindsey was a kind and loving person, had a smile on her face, and encouraged others in her journey. Although Kandice and Lindsey were not my best friend, Kandice stated "she was a great friend to me before she passed because she knew everything I was going through, and in a way, we went through it together. I am keeping my word through establishing, moving forward, and making PGWC a great resource and organization for girls and women fighting all types of cancer."With heartfelt gratitude to the Apostolo family and the support of donors, PGWC thrives as an organization that empowers, educates, and inspires individuals on their cancer journeys. Kandice's dedication and determination make PGWC a valuable resource for girls and women fighting all types of cancer.
The legacy of Lindsey and Kandice's friendship and the creation of Pretty Girls With Cancer continue to be an inspiration. Through PGWC, they invite others to join the "Pretty Strong Movement," where strength, resilience, and support reign supreme in the face of adversity. Together, they make the world a little brighter, one courageous step at a time.